My Husband Sexually Abused Me and I Didn’t Know

WTF! How Does that Even Happen????

Trust me I had the same question when faced with this reality. But sadly it is my story, part of my history and it’s been a painful reckoning. I share my story to help others, and to present a different picture of sexual abuse to help increase awareness.

I knew I needed to leave my marriage. I knew that there was nothing left to salvage. I knew it was the end. I picked up the pieces and carried on, focused on getting back on my feet and learning how to be a single working mother and establish a new normal. But life had a different plan for me. It was roughly 2 years after my divorce that the pieces started to come together to reveal a completely different picture of my history in my marriage, one that I needed to face whether I wanted to or not.

It was around the same time at work that my career was going strong, I was invited to join a team to spearhead a campus policy against sexual violence which meant I needed to attend several conferences around the topic of sexual violence. I attended these conferences eagerly and absorbed the information to help my college campus be responsive and helpful to those who…